How to Get a Woman's Number at a Museum

Talk to her for a few minutes first, move somewhere you can speak at normal volume, then ask for her number directly. A museum is quiet and slow, so the number comes from a short, warm conversation. Carry it out of the gallery. Do not ask in front of a painting.

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A museum makes it believable that you came for your own reasons. She can see you looking at the same things she is, and that makes a conversation seem natural. Both of you are in no hurry, which means she can say yes to ten minutes without any pressure.

It also tends to attract people who are open to conversation: students, visitors, people on a day off. That is a friendlier crowd than a train platform.

The downside is the volume. Galleries are quiet, rooms echo and guards watch for noise. Your approach has to fit.

Skip a line about the art. Open with something plain and say it softly.

• "Sorry to interrupt, I was about to ask what you thought of this one."
• "Do you know if the other floor is worth the walk?"
• "Have you seen anything in here that surprised you?"

Keep your voice low enough to match the room but clear enough that she does not have to lean in. Smile and let her take the lead on pace. If she answers warmly, keep the conversation going for a few minutes as you both look at the piece.

This is the step most men skip. A few minutes in, suggest walking on together or stepping out to a better place. "I'm going to check out the sculpture hall, want to come?" works. Better still, a courtyard, cafe or lobby where you can speak normally.

Out of the gallery, you can laugh, ask real questions and stand close enough to talk without whispering. The conversation gets better quickly, and so does her sense of who you are.

If she says she wants to keep looking alone, say "Enjoy it" and let her go. You will not lose anything by accepting that.

Ask when the conversation has had a few real exchanges and she seems comfortable, usually after ten or fifteen minutes. Do not wait for the final goodbye, because that turns the number into a last-second grab.

A good moment is as you are about to part or as the conversation is at a high point. You can say: "I have to head out soon, but I've really liked talking to you. Can I get your number?" Hold out your phone.

Do not ask in a crowded room with other people listening. Do not ask while a guard is watching. Do it at the exit, in the lobby or in the cafe line.

Text her within a day. Keep it short and specific: "Hey, it's Sam from the museum. I'm going back to the photography wing on Saturday, want to come?" A concrete plan is easier to say yes to than "we should hang out."

If she says no to the number, thank her and walk away. Do not argue and do not ask again later. The quiet manner you used in the building should carry through to the end.

A common error is to hang around the same gallery for an hour, hoping to see her again. It makes you look like you are waiting for her. Keep moving through the museum, talk to other people if they look open, and if you cross paths again, say hello like a normal person.

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