Every day. Hinge says a new batch of Standouts appears daily, and the Next Refresh timer shows how long you have to act on the current set before the page refreshes and new people take their place. If one of them catches your eye, deal with her before that timer runs out.
What the timer is counting down
Tap the star icon in the navigation bar and you are in Standouts. Hinge describes it as a feed of the people catching the most attention on the app, tailored to your preferences and your recent activity.
The Next Refresh timer is the clock on that feed. It tells you how long you have to interact with the set in front of you. When it reaches zero, the page refreshes and new faces appear.
So the timer answers the practical question for you. It is the amount of time you have to decide on anyone in today's set.
Once a woman rolls off, you may not see her again
This is the part men underestimate. Hinge says a woman from Standouts may turn up in your Discover feed on a later day, but it also says you cannot count on that. Its own advice is not to wait too long if someone catches your eye.
Treat the timer as a real deadline. If you look at a woman in the morning, decide to think about it, and come back after the refresh, she may be gone.
That does not mean acting on everyone. It means that when you know, you act. When you are unsure, you let her go and stop thinking about her.
Why these women are harder to reach
Look at who Hinge puts in this feed. They are women getting a lot of attention, and Hinge says that because of it, some of them may no longer be looking for a match.
a dating coach makes a related point about the most desirable women on any app. They have more options and more choices than most, and they respond to different things. A lazy approach that sometimes works elsewhere gets lost in a list like hers.
Hinge's answer to that problem is the Rose. Its Standouts page says that sending one increases your chances of matching with someone who is getting a lot of attention.
What a Rose gets you
In Standouts you can send Roses and nothing else. Hinge says a Rose moves you to the top of her Likes You, and its subscriber page says Roses carry a Rose icon, so she can see you sent one.
That solves the problem of getting seen. It does not decide whether she says yes. She still looks at your page and makes up her mind in a few seconds. The Rose only makes sure that look happens sooner.
Put a comment on it every time
Hinge lets you add a comment when you send a Rose and calls it optional. Its own pages also say that adding a comment can help spark a conversation. Treat it as required.
A Rose on its own tells her you are keen and nothing else. A Rose with one specific line gives her something to answer. Pick one thing from her pictures or her written answers that nobody else would think to mention, and ask about it in a sentence.
Keep it to two sentences at most. A paragraph to a busy stranger reads like pressure, and a woman with this much attention has little patience for pressure.
Where your free Rose should go
Hinge gives members a free Rose on a regular schedule, and it says free Roses do not accumulate. An unused one does not carry over. You can buy more in the app, and bought Roses do not expire until you use them.
So the free one is use it or lose it. The best place for it is the woman in today's Standouts you would most like to take out. In this feed, a Rose is the only way to reach her at all.
Check what you have before the timer runs out. Tap your profile picture in the lower right corner to open your Profile Hub, and your available Roses show on the Rose icon. Hinge also shows them each time you send a like.
Do not make the star tab your whole plan
Standouts is a small daily set of the people getting the most attention on the app. It deserves a minute a day. It is not where most of your dates will come from.
Those usually start in Discover, which Hinge builds on mutual interest: the people you see fit your preferences, and you fit theirs. There, an ordinary like with a good comment costs you nothing. Get conversations going in Discover first. Then save the daily Standouts window for the one woman who earns a Rose.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.