Raya's map lets you see who else is on the app around your location. Raya's privacy policy says you choose whether the app gets your location always, only while you are using it, or not at all. You may also be asked whether to show your specific location to other members. Showing it is optional, and you can switch it off in settings. Paying for Raya+ adds more results on the map and in the directory for people close to you.
What the map shows
Women's Health describes Raya's map as a way to see who else around your location is on the app. Instead of only working through a list of suggestions, you get a picture of which members are nearby.
That makes the map most useful for one thing: knowing who is close. It is a different question from who is suggested to you, and it is handy when you are somewhere new and want to know whether anyone worth talking to is around.
Who can see where you are
This is the part most men want answered first, and Raya's privacy policy is clear about it.
You pick the level of location access the app gets. Always, only while you are using it, or not at all. Separately, you may be asked whether you want to display your specific location to other members. That is optional, and it can be switched off in settings.
Raya's terms add that social mode and location services are easy to toggle on and off. So you are never stuck with a choice you made on day one.
Setting it up the way you want
A simple rule works for most men: share enough to be useful, and no more than you would tell a stranger at a party.
At home, you may not want members seeing a specific location that points at your street. Turning off the specific location display while leaving the app's location access on keeps things general.
When you travel, the calculation changes. A weekend in another city is exactly when seeing who is nearby is worth something, so that is a sensible time to turn it back on. Switch it off again when you get home.
Whatever you choose, use your real location. Raya's terms ban misrepresenting where you are, and a man who pretends to be somewhere he is not starts every conversation with a lie.
What Raya+ adds
Women's Health reports that Raya+ widens the map and directory results for people near you.
That is only worth paying for if the map is actually part of how you use Raya, say because you travel a lot or live somewhere busy. If you rarely open the map, more results on it will not change much. Raya+ has other features too, so judge it on the whole package rather than the map alone.
Never open a message with her location
The map tells you a woman is nearby. It does not give you permission to act like you know where she is.
Never open with her location. "I see you're close by" or "Looks like you're at the same bar as me" turns a harmless feature into something that feels like being watched. Raya's terms rule out contact that could reasonably make a member uncomfortable, and a line pointing at where she is right now gets there fastest.
Treat the map as background knowledge. Like her for the reasons you would like anyone: her photos, her song, the few lines she wrote. When you match, open with something she chose to share, not something the map told you.
Where the map actually helps
The map earns its place once you are already talking.
Once a chat is going well and you want to ask her out, knowing you are both in the same part of town makes the plan easy. You can suggest a place that is convenient for both of you tonight or tomorrow, instead of a vague "we should get a drink sometime" that never turns into anything.
It also helps when you are traveling. If you land in a city for three days, seeing who is nearby tells you quickly whether it is worth opening the app at all, and your matches there can turn into plans while you are actually around.
Used that way, the map does not replace a good first message. It just turns a good conversation into a real date faster.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.