Take a clean screenshot of one of her pictures, crop it so it shows her face and the setting, and upload it to an image search tool. The tools built into the major search engines do this for free, and the whole job takes a couple of minutes. Run two or three of her pictures, not one, and read the results for the same face under a different name. A clean result is reassuring but it does not prove she is real.
Get a usable image
Open her page and take a screenshot of the picture you want to check. If the app does not let you capture the screen, take a photo of your screen with a second device or use the app on a computer where you can save the page.
Crop out the buttons, text and any overlay so only the picture is left. A tight crop on her face and a second crop that includes the background both help, because a search tool may match one and miss the other. Pick a picture that is sharp and large rather than a tiny blurred one.
Run the search
Open an image search tool, such as the one built into a major search engine, and upload the cropped image. Most have a camera or "search by image" icon in the search box. Some also let you paste an image or a link.
Several free tools exist, and each one indexes a slightly different part of the web. If the first returns nothing, try a second. A picture that does not show up in one can show up in another.
Do it with two or three of her pictures. Someone borrowing a stranger's identity may mix pictures from more than one source, so a clean result on one picture says nothing about the rest.
Read the results
Look for the same picture, or the same face, in a place that does not match her page.
Suppose the same face turns up on a stock image site or a professional's portfolio. Or it turns up on an account that belongs to someone with another name and another town. Then the set is probably borrowed. If it turns up on an account in her own name that fits the city and details on her page, that is ordinary, since many real women have other public accounts.
Check the dates when you can. A picture that shows up years ago under another name is more worrying than one from last month on her own account.
What a clean result does not prove
An empty result is not a pass.
A new picture, or one that lives only on a private account, will not be in any search index. Someone who edits the picture, flips it left to right or crops it can also slip past a basic search. And pictures made by a computer have no earlier copy to find, so a search for one comes back with nothing at all.
So treat an empty result as one weak sign. It means you have not found a problem, not that you have found proof.
Look at what the pictures say
Alongside the search, look at the set. Do the face, hair, build and age look the same across her pictures? Is there at least one casual shot that looks like a normal day? Are all the pictures polished and posed, with nothing relaxed?
Read her page for details that fit the pictures. A woman who says she hikes every weekend and has no outdoor shot may be a real woman with a stylish set. So may a woman whose warm text sits beside glossy portraits. She may also be someone else. It is a reason to look further, not a verdict.
The check that actually settles it
The surest test is a short live video call. A live face is far harder to fake than a still picture, and a real woman is usually glad to show she is who her pictures say.
a dating coach does this with women before dates, and says a call or video chat cuts down on no-shows and shows how the woman looks next to her pictures. He once skipped a date after a video call for exactly that reason. If she refuses every call and keeps finding reasons to wait, take that as a strong sign.
Keep it fair
Use the search to protect yourself, to check that the woman you are about to meet is who she says she is. Do not use it to dig into a stranger's life, and do not share what you find. If you find a fake, report the page through the app and move on.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.