How Do You Report Something That Happened in Person From Tinder?

If anyone is in immediate physical danger, contact the local police first, which is also what Tinder tells you to do. Then open the app and tap Report, either at the bottom of the person's page or from the three dots in the top right of your chat. Choose Something that happened off Tinder or in person, follow the prompts, describe what happened in your own words and tap Submit.

A report to Tinder is not an emergency service. If someone hurt you, threatened you, is following you, or is still nearby and you feel unsafe, call the police before you touch the app. Tinder says to contact local authorities first when anyone is in immediate physical danger.

Men are often slow to do this. Some assume that because they are men, what happened does not count. Others worry they will look foolish. Neither is a good reason to stay quiet. Being robbed, drugged, assaulted or threatened after a date is a crime, whoever it happens to.

1. Tap Report at the bottom of the user's profile, or open your chat, tap the three dots in the top right and tap Report.
2. Tap Something that happened off Tinder or in person.
3. Follow the prompts.
4. Describe what happened in your own words.
5. Tap Submit.

Tinder lets you choose whether you want to be informed about the outcome of your report. If you want to know, say so when you are asked.

Tinder also offers a web help form for reports. It is a better fit if you would rather write the report on a laptop, where it is easier to be thorough than it is with your thumbs on a small screen.

Whichever route you use, write it while the details are fresh. The day after is fine. Three weeks later, you will have forgotten the small facts that make a report useful.

Write it the way you would explain it to a friend who needs the facts: plainly, in order, and without guessing at motives.

Cover the basics. When it happened, and roughly where. What was agreed in the chat beforehand. What the person did. Whether anyone else was involved, such as a second person who showed up once you arrived. What you did afterwards, including whether you went to the police.

Stick to what you saw and heard. "She left to take a call, two men sat down, and they demanded I pay the bill for their table" is useful. "I think she planned the whole thing" is a conclusion. Let the facts make that point for you, because they make it better than an accusation does.

The chat is your best evidence, so screenshot it before anything happens to it. Capture the name as it showed on the app, the photos, and every message, including the plans you made to see each other.

This matters because the conversation is fragile. If either of you unmatches, the chat is gone for both of you. Do not unmatch the person until you have saved what you need and filed the report.

Keep anything else that backs up your account as well: receipts, a card statement showing a charge you never agreed to, the names of anyone who saw what happened.

Men often talk themselves out of it. The reasons are familiar: embarrassment, the sense that nothing will come of it, the feeling that it was partly their fault for going.

A report is not about getting an apology. It puts what happened on the record with the one company that can act on the account. If the same person has done this to other men, your report adds to the picture.

It also helps you close the chapter. A man who carries a bad night around in silence tends to go back to the apps guarded and suspicious, and that tone leaks into every conversation he has. Writing it down, sending it, and letting Tinder handle its part makes it easier to put behind you.

A bad experience does not mean the apps are dangerous or that every woman is running a scheme. It means one person did something wrong.

When you are ready, go back with a few sensible habits. Pick a busy, well-lit place for a first date, and choose it yourself. Get her number and have a short call before you see her, which filters out a lot of accounts that are not what they claim. Keep an eye on your own drink and your own way home. None of this makes you paranoid. It makes you the calm one in the room, and calm is attractive in its own right.