Download Tinder on your iPhone or Android phone, or go to Tinder.com, and tap Create Account. Verify your phone number, verify your email if Tinder asks, and choose whether to connect your Apple or Google account. Then fill in your details and allow the permissions the app needs. The signup itself is quick, and the photos and words you go live with are the part worth slowing down for.
Signing up on your phone
Here is the route on the Android or iOS app, in Tinder's order.
- Download Tinder from your phone's app store.
- Tap Create Account.
- Enter your phone number and verify it with the code Tinder texts you.
- Enter and verify your email if you are prompted.
- Optionally, connect your Apple or Google account for a faster login.
- Set up your profile.
- Allow the required permissions.
That is the whole process. The verification code goes to the number you enter, so use the phone you actually carry.
Connecting Apple or Google is optional. Tinder offers it as a faster way to log in. If you would rather keep your dating account separate from those accounts, skip it, and nothing about signing up changes.
Make one account, not two. Tinder's rules allow one account per person, and a second one started to test a different look puts both at risk. Get this one right instead.
Signing up on Tinder.com
You can also start in a browser. Visit Tinder.com, tap Create Account and select a sign-in method. Verify your phone number and email if prompted, then set up your profile and permissions the same way.
Setting up on a laptop has one real advantage. It is easier to type something thoughtful on a proper keyboard than with your thumbs on a bus. If you plan to spend a little time on the written parts, the browser is a comfortable place to do it.
Use a number and email you will keep
The phone number and email you sign up with are more than a formality. They are how you get back into the account later.
Tinder lets a phone number or an email be verified on only one account at a time, and its rules allow one account per person. So choose them carefully. Use the phone number you expect to keep for years and an email you actually read. If you ever change numbers, Tinder's way back in runs through that email, so an address tied to a job you might leave is a poor choice.
Get your photos ready before you start
Most men treat signup as the moment to find photos, and grab whatever is in their camera roll. That is backwards.
a dating coach's view is that photos decide most of what happens on any dating app. Pick them before you tap Create Account. Lead with a recent, clear photo of your face in good light, without sunglasses or a hat hiding it. Add a few that show your actual life: something you do on a weekend, somewhere you go, people you spend time with. Cut the blurry shot, the old one from years ago, and the group photo where she has to guess which one is you.
If you do not have enough good ones, get a friend to take a few in daylight before you sign up. A week's delay with good photos beats going live today with bad ones.
What to write about yourself
The written parts matter less than the photos, and men tend to overwork them. My advice is to fill things out most of the way and stop there. A woman can read a wall of text as trying too hard.
Write the way you talk. Mention one or two specific things you actually do, rather than a list of adjectives about yourself. Leave her something easy to ask about. Then stop.
Your first week of swiping and messages
Once the account is live, how you use it matters as much as how it looks. My reading of how the apps work comes down to a few habits.
Be selective. His advice is to swipe on the women you are genuinely attracted to rather than on everyone. Stay active, because an app is more likely to show a man who is using it. By his account, opening the app a few times a week for a few minutes is enough. And when you match, send a first message about her, something in her photos or something she wrote, not a flat hello.
Then aim for a plan. Once she is open to meeting, My approach is to take her number and set the date by text rather than in the app, where your message sits in a pile with everyone else's. That is the point of making the account in the first place.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.