You use Passport Mode. Open Tinder, go into Settings, scroll down to Location and add a new location, either by searching for a city or by dropping a pin on the map. Passport is sold as a standalone purchase, and it is also included with Tinder Plus, Tinder Gold and Tinder Platinum.
The steps
- Open Tinder.
- Tap the profile icon.
- Tap the Settings icon.
- Scroll down and tap Location.
- Add a new location.
Once the new location is set, you see people there and people there can come across you. When the trip is over, go back to the same Location screen and set it to where you really are.
City search or a pin
The two options do slightly different jobs.
Searching for a city is the quick choice when you just want to be somewhere. Dropping a pin lets you choose the part of town you will actually be in. In a big city, where you stay decides how far a first drink is. Putting the pin near your hotel or a friend's apartment keeps the women you see within easy reach of where you are staying.
Standalone or part of a plan
Passport comes two ways. You can buy it on its own, or get it inside Tinder Plus, Gold or Platinum.
If you only want it for one trip, the standalone purchase is the simpler buy. If you already pay for a plan, or you travel often enough to switch cities every month, a plan that includes it saves you deciding each time. Prices change, so check what your own screen shows.
a dating coach is practical about paying for the apps. If your time is worth something, it can make sense to trade a little money for time. A trip is the clearest case: you have a handful of evenings in a city, and starting before you arrive is what buys you those evenings.
Switch before you fly
Passport works best a few days before a trip, not the night you land.
A man who changes his location from the hotel bed on the first night is already late. Every conversation starts cold. The woman who could have had a drink with him on Wednesday hears from him on Thursday, the night before he leaves. Change your location three or four days ahead and start conversations from your own sofa.
Keep the sessions short. coach has found that thirty minutes a day across ten days gets more matches than the same five hours spent in one sitting. Before a trip, that means a quick session each morning and evening, not one long night on the app the weekend before.
Say plainly that you are visiting
Tell her early that you are in town on a trip, and on which dates. Something as plain as "I'm in town Tuesday to Saturday for work, and Thursday evening is free. Drink somewhere near the river?" does the job.
It saves her from chatting for a week with a man she can see once. It also explains why you are asking about Thursday in particular, so the invitation reads as practical rather than rushed.
Passport exists for dating in a city you are really going to. Using it to make a woman think you live somewhere you do not starts things on a lie and sets up an awkward conversation later. The honest version works better anyway. A short window gives both of you a reason to pick an evening now.
Put the first date near where you are staying
My first rule for dates from the apps is logistics. Keep the date within walking distance of your place. On a trip, your place is the hotel or wherever you are sleeping that week. Pick a bar a couple of streets away, name an evening you know you are free, and keep the first drink short enough to fit around her week.
He also suggests a quick video call before a first date from the apps. It takes a few minutes, it confirms she looks like her photos, and it makes her far more likely to actually turn up. With only a few evenings in a city, a no-show costs you more than it would at home.
The short answer
Tap the profile icon, then Settings, then Location, and add a new location with a city search or a pin. Passport comes on its own or with Plus, Gold and Platinum. Switch a few days before the trip, say you are visiting and when, and put the first date close to where you are staying.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.