How Do You Appeal a Tinder Ban?

Sign in to Tinder's Appeal Center using the same login details as your Tinder account. Find the violation you want to appeal, select it, tap Begin appeal, then tap Submit appeal. If more than one violation is listed and you want to contest them all, make sure every one of them is selected before you submit.

1. Open Tinder's Appeal Center.
2. Sign in with the same login details you use for Tinder.
3. Find the violation you want to appeal and select it.
4. Tap Begin appeal.
5. Tap Submit appeal.

The login is the part that trips men up. The Appeal Center uses your normal Tinder sign-in, so if you log in with a phone number, have that phone with you before you start.

A ban can sit on top of more than one violation. Tinder's instruction here is specific: if there are several you want to appeal, make sure all of them are selected when you submit.

Men skip this more often than you would think. They see the violation they are sure is wrong, select it, and send. If a second violation on the list stays unselected, it has not been appealed. Check the list twice before you tap Submit appeal.

The violation listed in the Appeal Center is the most specific information you will get about why this happened, so read it before anything else.

Then be straight with yourself. The appeal exists for bans you believe were an error. If you never did what the violation describes, your appeal stands on solid ground. Perhaps the photos are all of you, nobody else has used the account, and the conversation you suspect was reported was friendly. If you did do it, an appeal arguing that the rule is unfair gives a reviewer nothing to reverse.

If the appeal gives you space to write, keep it short, calm and specific. Write it the way you would dispute a parking ticket you know was issued in error: the facts, in order, and no speech.

One line saying you believe the decision was an error. Then two or three details a reviewer could check. Every photo shows you. You are the only person who has used the account. You have never used any tool to swipe for you. That is enough.

Keep the anger out of it. Sarcasm, threats to leave for another app, and complaints about the woman you think reported you all work against you. They read like the very behavior a ban exists to stop.

Do not open a new account while the appeal is open. Tinder says that if your account is banned, you cannot continue to use Tinder or create new accounts. Its Terms of Use add that you are not authorized to sign up again without its express written permission.

A second account breaks the rules again at the exact moment you are asking Tinder to believe you follow them. Coaching material on app bans also lists making a new account after a ban as a cause of bans in its own right. It makes a bad situation worse.

Keep an eye on the email address tied to your account instead. Tinder told you about the ban by email, so that inbox is where any answer is most likely to land.

You cannot speed up the review, so spend the wait on what decides your results on any app.

Start with your last few conversations. Read your own lines as if a stranger wrote them. Coaching on this is consistent: stand out, but never by being rude or offensive, because that is how accounts pick up black marks. If a line of yours fails that test, change the habit now, whatever happens with the appeal.

Spend a few of the free evenings out of the house, too. A climbing gym, a cooking class, the friend's birthday you would normally skip. You come back to the apps with more to say, and with less riding on any single conversation.

Then look at your photos. If any of them is old, borrowed, or hard to read, replace it with a recent one of you in daylight. Whether your account comes back or you start again somewhere else within the rules, you will want a set that looks like the man who turns up to the date.