How Do You Add Pronouns to Your Tinder Profile?

Go to Edit Profile from your Profile Home and add them in the Pronouns section. You can choose up to four pronouns and you can mix sets. Adding pronouns is optional, and Tinder notes that the feature is only available in select test markets, so you may not see the section at all.

1. Open your Profile Home.
2. Tap Edit Profile.
3. Find the Pronouns section.
4. Choose the pronouns you want to show.

If you cannot find the section, the likely reason is that the feature is not offered where you are. Tinder describes it as limited to select test markets, so a friend in another city may see a field you do not.

This is the part most men searching the question want to know. Tinder says adding pronouns is optional. Leaving the field blank is a normal choice, and the rest of your page works the same way it did before.

So the choice is yours, and it is a small one. Some men add their pronouns and some leave the field empty. Either way the page does its job.

Tinder lets you choose up to four pronouns and mix sets. A man who uses he/him can simply choose that and leave it there.

Pick what is true for you and move on. The field is a fact about you, like your height or your city. It answers a question she might have. It does not need a clever answer, and it is not the place to make a point.

Very little on its own, and that is the useful thing to understand. The small fact fields at the bottom of a page rarely change a woman's mind.

What decides whether she stops on you is your first photo. What decides whether she writes to you is what she sees and reads after that. The pronoun field sits in the same group as your school and your languages: something she may glance at once she is already interested, not something that makes her interested.

If you are spending more than a minute deciding about this field, that time belongs somewhere else on the page.

The same logic works the other way. If a woman has filled in the field, treat it the way you would treat her height or her city: a fact she chose to share, not a topic to open with.

Your first message should be about something she put there to be talked about. A photo of her somewhere interesting, a line in her bio, an Interest that looks a little unusual. Those are her invitations. Opening on a small fact field instead tells her you skimmed the page, and a man who clearly read her page gets a better reply than one who did not.

So read it, note it, and use her name and the pronouns she chose if they come up. Then talk about the things she actually wants to talk about.

Most men's pages lose women in the photos. A selfie from below the chin, a dim bar shot, a group photo where she cannot find you. Fix those first. Ask a friend to take a lot of photos of you in daylight, somewhere you actually spend time, and keep only the few where you look relaxed.

Then look at your bio. Most men list the same good qualities every other man lists: kind, loyal, loves to travel. She has read those lines all day. Swap them for one specific detail from your life that she could picture and ask about, and your page starts to sound like a person rather than a form.

Those two changes will do more for you than every small field put together.

Everything on the page should be something you would be happy to talk about over a drink. That goes for the pronouns field, your job, your Interests and every photo.

Women on the apps are comparing the man on the screen to the man who walks into the bar. The closer those two are, the more relaxed the first date is, because she is not spending it checking what else was different. Fill in what is true, leave blank what you prefer to leave blank, and put your real effort into the parts of the page she actually looks at.