Open Tinder or Tinder.com, tap the profile icon, then tap the pencil icon or Edit Info. That screen lets you change your photos and Loops, your About Me and bio, and your Lifestyle and Interests tags. It also covers pronouns, height, relationship goals, languages, job and company, school, the city you live in, and your gender and sexual orientation. Tinder notes that some options vary by location, so a field you read about here may not appear for you.

Where the edit screen is

  1. Open the Tinder app, or sign in at Tinder.com.
  2. Tap the profile icon.
  3. Tap the pencil icon, or Edit Info.
  4. Scroll to the section you want and change it.

Two things are missing from that screen, and they are missing on purpose. Tinder says your name and your age are the only parts you cannot update once the account exists. Everything else on the list above is edited from the same place.

That is worth knowing, because a page that never changes is usually a page that was set up once in a hurry and then left alone.

Sort the fields by what they do

The list is long, and men tend to treat every item on it as equally important. They are not.

Your photos and Loops are what she sees before she decides anything. Your About Me and bio are what she reads if the photos earned a second look. Interests, Lifestyle tags and relationship goals fill in her guess about what a week with you looks like.

Height, job, school, city, languages, pronouns, gender and orientation are facts. They answer questions she might have, but they rarely change her mind on their own.

Spend your effort in that order. An hour on your photos is worth more than a month of fiddling with the school field.

Photos do most of the work

Most men put up the photos they like of themselves. Those are not always the photos women respond to.

The usual set gives it away. A selfie taken from below the chin, a dim shot in a bar, and one group photo where she cannot tell which man is you. None of those is a disaster alone. Together they describe a man nobody has ever bothered to photograph, and she moves on without being able to say why.

The fix is simple, if a little tedious. Get a friend to take a lot of photos of you in daylight, somewhere you would actually spend a Saturday. Keep only the few where you look relaxed and like yourself.

Then swap your weakest current photo for your strongest new one. Watch whether anything changes before you swap the next, so you learn which photo was holding you back.

The About Me section is where men sound identical

Read ten men's bios and you will find the same promises in most of them. He is a gentleman. He knows how to treat a woman. He loves to laugh and travel.

She has read those lines many times today, and a line she has read many times tells her nothing. Being kind is not a bad quality. It is just not a reason to pick you over the last man who wrote the same sentence.

Replace the adjectives with one specific thing from your actual life. Where you were last weekend, the argument you always win, the dish you cook when friends come over. Pick something she can picture and could ask you about. It gives her an easy first line, and it tells her more than a list of virtues ever will.

The fields men rush past

Height gets more worry than it deserves. Put in the true number. It matters less to most women than men assume, and a woman who minds will find out at the bar anyway. What costs a shorter man more is a photo taken from a low angle that makes him look shorter still.

Job and company are a chance to show something quietly. A plain job title reads as a man who is comfortable with what he does. A title padded with big words, next to photos that do not back it up, reads as a man trying hard.

Relationship goals deserve an honest answer. Choosing the vaguest option to keep every door open mostly brings you women who want something different, and you find that out three dates in.

Interests matter least of all, but pick ones your photos can prove. A hiking interest next to a photo on a trail is believable. A hiking interest with no evidence anywhere is filler.

Edit with a reason

Every edit should have a reason you could say out loud. "My third photo is from a wedding six years ago" is a reason. "I was bored on the train" is not.

Change one thing at a time, so that when something improves you know what did it. And keep everything true. She will compare the man at the table to the one on her screen, and the closer those two are, the easier the whole evening gets.