A good Feeld profile for a man says plainly what he is looking for, uses his interests honestly, and gives a stranger something easy to respond to. Below are three whole examples in Feeld's layout, with the reason behind each choice. The men are invented. They are not real people or clients, and no result is claimed for them.
What a Feeld profile holds
A connection on Feeld forms only when two members have liked each other, so a member decides on your page before you ever write to her. Everything she sees in Discover has to do the work.
Members choose desires, relationship types, sexualities and genders, and others can filter Discover by distance, age, genders and relationship types. You write a bio and add photos, and you can verify a picture by matching it against a live selfie to earn a Verified badge. Feeld also has a hidden bio, a section only the members you have liked or Pinged can read. Couples are a normal part of the app, and a member can link his page with partners.
Example one: the clear-minded single
Photos: daylight face shot, then full length outdoors, then cooking at home, then with friends where he is easy to spot.
Bio: "Single, curious, and honest about it. I like slow dinners that turn into long conversations. Looking for someone who knows what she wants and says it."
Interests: cooking, travel, live music.
Hidden bio: "I take consent seriously and I am happy to talk about boundaries before we ever meet. I like to start with a conversation and see where it goes."
Why it works. He says he is single and curious without a long explanation, and he names his intentions in the first lines. The hidden bio is candid but respectful, so it reads as safe to a stranger.
Example two: the man open to couples
Photos: clear face, a hobby shot, a relaxed shot with friends.
Bio: "Easygoing, open to meeting singles or couples. I write to both people, not just one. Happy to start with a conversation."
Interests: board games, hiking, wine.
Hidden bio: "If you are exploring something together, I would like to hear what you both want. I am patient and I do not rush."
Why it works. Couples are part of the app, and this man says in his own words that he treats both people as people. a dating coach's rule for any app is that a page attracts what it says. A man who is vague about his intentions on an app with filters this specific gets a quick dislike, and a man who says it clearly gets the couples who are looking for exactly that.
Example three: the man who wants it slow
Photos: daylight face shot, a trip, a dinner with friends, a walk by water.
Bio: "Not in a rush. I like to get to know someone first, over coffee or a walk. If we click, we will both know."
Interests: coffee, museums, reading.
Hidden bio: "I am looking for a connection with someone I enjoy talking to. Chemistry first, labels later."
Why it works. He says what pace he wants, which saves both people time. A line like "chemistry first, labels later" tells her what to expect without promising anything.
What the three share
Each opens with intent. Each uses real interests that she could ask a question about. And each keeps the hidden bio honest, since it must follow the same community guidelines as the rest of the page.
None of them says "I am a nice guy" or lists qualities. a dating coach's example of the opposite is the bio that promises he is a gentleman who treats a lady well. A great many men write that, and a woman who has read it all day passes on it from boredom.
Ping notes and the first line
On Feeld you can only speak first with a Ping, and you can add a short note unless she has opted out of Ping notes. A good note is one line about something on her page.
"Your travel photos made me want to ask where the best coffee was." That gives her one easy thing to answer. A bare compliment gives her nothing.
Write your own
Use these as layouts, not scripts. Copying a line word for word helps nobody, since she may have seen it before. Write one honest sentence on what you want, add two interests you really have, and keep the hidden bio candid and polite. Then test it for two weeks and change one thing at a time.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.