Can You Undo a Dislike on Inner Circle

Yes, if you catch it straight away. Inner Circle says you can press the undo button at the top left right after you dislike someone. Later on it is harder. Inner Circle does not keep a list of everyone you liked and disliked, so you cannot find one woman and bring her back. What its support team can do, if you email support@theinnercircle.com, is reset all of your dislikes at once.

The undo button sits at the top left of the screen, and it is meant for the second after a mistake.

If your thumb moves before your brain does and you pass on someone you meant to like, press undo right away. Do not keep browsing first. The button is there for the dislike you just made, so the sooner you use it, the better.

Mistakes go the other way too. Sometimes you like someone and then think better of it.

For that, open your list of liked profiles, find her, and use the three dots to unlike her. This one works later, because your likes sit in a list you can open whenever you want.

Inner Circle does not offer a history of everyone you have liked and disliked. Once the moment for undo has passed, there is no page where you can hunt down the woman you skipped by accident and fix it.

That catches men out. They remember a face from twenty minutes ago and go looking for a history screen that does not exist. If she was only a dislike, she is not sitting anywhere you can reach.

The one remedy after the fact is a reset. Email support at support@theinnercircle.com and ask them to reset your dislikes.

Be clear about what that means. A reset clears all of your dislikes, not one. Everyone you passed on can show up again. That includes every woman you skipped on purpose.

That is worth it in two cases. The first is a real mistake with someone you genuinely wanted to meet, where a few repeats in your browsing are a small price. The second is when your own situation has changed, say you have moved cities or widened the ages you are open to, and a fresh look at everyone makes sense anyway.

It is not worth it for a woman you glanced at for half a second. There will be others.

Most accidental dislikes come from browsing at speed, half watching television and deciding in a fraction of a second.

a dating coach's view is that you learn a lot about a woman before you ever write to her. Her photos and whatever she wrote about herself tell you what kind of person she is and what she is likely to respond to. You cannot read any of that in a fraction of a second.

So give each woman a proper look before you decide. Read what she wrote. Look past the first photo. It is slower, but you pass on fewer women you would have liked, and the ones you do like are women you already have something to say to.

Before you like or pass, ask yourself one question: is there anything on her page I could say something about?

If the answer is yes, like her, and your first message is already half written. If the answer is no and nothing about her appeals to you, pass without a second thought. The accidental dislikes nearly always happen in between, with women you were moving too fast to look at properly.

The test helps with the opposite mistake too. A man who likes everyone ends up with a list of women he has nothing to say to. a dating coach's first messages all point at something specific on the woman's page, and you cannot do that if you never really looked at hers.

If an undo or a reset brings her back and the two of you match, treat it as a fresh start and leave the mix-up out of it.

Write to her the way you would write to anyone you liked on purpose. Pick one thing from her page, keep it short, and give her something easy to answer. The dislike was a slip of the thumb. The first message is the part that decides whether you meet.