Can You Have More Than One eHarmony Profile?

No. eharmony's terms of service say that as a registered user of the singles service you will create only one unique profile. Its rules are built around one man, one profile, and the site gives you hiding and deleting as the ways to step back, not a second page.

Most men who ask this are not planning anything strange. They have a profile that is not working, and they are wondering whether a clean start would help. The rules say no to that route, and the better news is that you rarely need one.

The terms require that use of the service be for bona fide relationship seeking purposes. They also set the basic conditions for membership: users must be at least 18 years old, and must be single or, if legally married, separated.

One profile, a real person, an honest purpose. That is the shape of the agreement you accepted at sign-up, and a second page is outside it.

The usual reason is silence. The first page got few Likes, nobody wrote, and the man wonders whether a fresh page would be seen differently.

The honest reading of that silence is that something on the page is not working. A new page with the same photos and the same sentences produces the same result. The page was not the problem, so a copy of it cannot be the solution.

You can change nearly everything on your page. Open Edit Profile from the dropdown by your picture, click the edit button in any section, change what you want, and hit Save. eharmony's help pages describe this flow.

a dating coach's rule for online dating is constant, never-ending improvement: change one thing, watch what happens, then change the next. He says he was bad at it on the first site he ever used, and got better by trying new photos, rewriting his page and reworking his first message again and again. That process needs one profile, not two.

So make one change at a time. Swap your first photo for a clearer one. Rewrite the opening so it says what makes you attractive, not that you are nice. Give it a week, then look at what changed.

eharmony lets you hide your profile from Data and Settings instead of deleting it. That is the right tool when you are tired of the site, are seeing someone, or want to stop being seen while you rework the page.

Remember the limit. Hiding does not remove you from members you are already in contact with. It is a pause, not a vanishing act.

To permanently delete a profile with no active subscription, you use the link in the Profile Status section of Data and Settings and confirm with your password. eharmony says deletion is permanent and cannot be restored.

Members in the middle of a subscription must contact eharmony Customer Care to begin the deletion process. Do that before you assume the account is gone, because a subscription that is still active is a charge that can still run.

Delete only when you are sure. If the real aim is to stop being seen for a while, hiding does that and keeps everything you built.

If you were going to spend an evening setting up a second page, spend it on the first one. Ask a friend who knows you well to read your page and tell you what kind of man they would picture from it. If the picture is wrong, change the page until it matches the man who shows up on a date. a dating coach's point is that everything you put on a page has to fit how you present yourself in person.

If the photo is the weak point, put real effort into it. a dating coach's minimum is someone decent with a camera taking far more shots than you think you need, and half an hour in front of a mirror beforehand to find the expressions that look best on you. He adds that it is fine not to smile, as long as the photo looks like you. This is the cheapest hour you will spend on the page.

Then wait for the numbers to move, and keep changing one thing at a time.