Are eHarmony Profile Views Accurate?

According to eharmony, yes: it shows every time a member views a profile, and the visitor list updates with each visit, with the most recent visitor on top. There is no outside way for you to audit that count, so you are taking the company at its word. The better question is what the number means once you trust it, because a view and a woman who wants to meet you are very different things.

This article covers what the visitor list records, what it hides, and what to do with a pile of views and no replies.

eharmony says it shows every time you view a profile. The visitor list is updated with each visit, so the most recent visitor is shown first.

Other members cannot tell exactly how many times you have visited their page. They see the list, not a tally. But visiting several times may put you first on their list, because your latest visit is the most recent one. A man who opens a woman's page three times in an evening can end up at the top of her list.

That detail is worth taking seriously. Repeated visits do not show interest in a charming way. They show up as a man who keeps coming back to a page and says nothing.

Whether you see who has viewed you depends on your membership. eharmony lists seeing who has viewed you as a Premium feature, and says that depending on which Premium membership you have, you can see which members have viewed your profile.

So two members can look at the same site and see different things. If your list looks thin next to what a friend sees, check whether you are on the same membership before deciding that something is broken.

You can stop appearing on other members' visitor lists by switching off the Visitors setting in Data and Settings. The cost is that you also stop seeing who has shown interest in your own profile.

There is a separate setting for Online right now, in the same place, which controls whether eharmony tells other members you are online at that moment. Both are your choice, and neither changes how many people can find you.

In most cases, leave Visitors on. A woman who looks at your page and says nothing has told you something, and you can only act on it if the list is visible to you.

The visitor list records a visit. It does not record a Like, a note or a decision. A woman can open your page, read the first two lines, and close it, and the system counts that the same as someone who read every word.

So ignore total views; the useful number is the ratio between views and anything else that follows: a Like, a reply, a question. If views are steady and nothing follows, the problem is on the page, not in the counting.

a dating coach's observation about online dating is that results come from constant, never-ending improvement: change a thing, watch what happens, and change another. Apply that to your page one piece at a time.

Start with the first photo, because it is the first thing she judges and she gives it very little time. Then look at the opening of what you wrote. He has pointed out that a page built around being nice reads as comfort, not value, and that a camera angle that makes a man look shorter than he is can sink a good photo. Replace one of them, wait a week, and see whether views start to turn into Likes.

Keep the page consistent with the man who shows up on the date. If the page promises something you are not, the views will go to women who leave when they meet you.

Check the list once a day, not once an hour. When you see a woman who visited and did not write, send her a short line about something specific on her page, and keep it light. Do not visit her page again and again, and do not read her visit as a promise.

If a week of changes does not move the numbers, change the next piece. The count is only useful if it tells you what to try next.