Plenty of Fish verification compares a short video selfie to your main photo, so when it fails, the two usually do not match well enough. Check the main photo first. If it is not a clear photo of your face alone, the selfie has nothing good to be compared to, and fixing the photo fixes most failures.
What the check actually does
Selfie Verification is one step. You record a quick video selfie, and Plenty of Fish runs two checks on it. A Liveness Check confirms that a real person is in front of the camera. A 3D Face Authentication check compares your face to your profile photo.
That is why the order matters. You need a primary profile photo before you can verify, because the video selfie is compared to that photo. And if you change your main photo later, you have to verify again.
The steps, in order
If you are not sure you did it right, run through it again slowly:
- Open Profile.
- Tap the Safety Toolbox, the shield with a heart, at the top right.
- Tap Get Verified.
- Allow camera access if the app asks.
- Center your face in the oval and tap I'm Ready.
Skipping the camera permission is a common reason nothing seems to happen. If the camera never turned on, check your phone's settings for the app before you try again.
When your selfie does not match your photo
The help center says that if your selfie does not match your profile photo, you may need to try again. That is the polite version of "the two faces looked different to the system."
So look at your main photo the way a camera would. A group shot, a photo with sunglasses, a heavy filter or a picture from several years ago all give the system less to work with. The same goes for a photo taken from far away, or in dim light. A clear picture of you alone, facing the camera, is easy to match.
Then look at your selfie. Hold the phone at eye level, face a window or a lamp so the light reaches your face, and stay inside the oval. A selfie taken in a dark room, or with your face partly out of the frame, is harder to read.
Face Check and the badge
Plenty of Fish also has a feature called Face Check. After you complete the video selfie and upload a clear solo photo of your face that matches the one in the video, you get a Photo Verified badge automatically.
That detail is easy to miss. If your badge has not appeared, the missing piece may be a clear solo photo, not another attempt at the video.
The badge can also go away on its own. Removing the verified badge works by changing or deleting your main profile photo. If you swapped your main photo and the badge vanished, that is the cause, and you verify again with the new one.
Why a badge helps your messages get answered
Verification is a small effort that tells a woman something she cares about: you are who your photos say you are. On a dating app full of old pictures and borrowed ones, that counts for something, and it can make her more willing to answer you.
Once you are verified, you can also ask other members to verify from the conversation, using the shield icon. A woman who has verified herself is more likely to be real, and asking her is a fair thing to do before you plan to meet.
If it still will not pass
Work through the list: a clear, solo, recent main photo, then a bright and steady selfie, then the camera permission. Fix them in that order and try again after each one.
If it keeps failing after all that, contact Plenty of Fish through its help center instead of retrying a dozen times in one evening. Repeated attempts do not improve your odds if the real problem is a photo that does not look like you.
While you are there, ask yourself whether your main photo does you justice. If the system struggles to match your face to it, a woman scrolling past probably struggles to get a good read on you too. A photo that matches your selfie is one that works harder for you everywhere else on the app.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.