Time. Tinder's Appeal Center glossary defines a ban as an action that prohibits you from accessing your account or creating new ones, and your profile is removed from the platform. A suspension only restricts access for a while. When the period ends, the account comes back automatically, unless more violations occur.
The two definitions
Tinder keeps a glossary for its Appeal Center, and the two terms are defined there.
A ban prohibits the member from accessing the account or creating new accounts, and the profile is removed from the platform. The definition sets no end date.
A suspension temporarily restricts access. When the suspension period ends, the account is reinstated automatically. The one condition attached is that no additional violations occur in the meantime.
So a suspension is a door that reopens on its own. A ban is a door that stays shut unless an appeal opens it.
How to tell which one you have
Tinder tells you in the same two ways for both. You receive an email, and you see a notification when you try to log in. Read the wording in both. The word itself, banned or suspended, decides almost everything that follows.
If the notice is unclear, sign in to Tinder's Appeal Center with your usual Tinder login. The violations on your account are listed there, and it is also where you would start an appeal for either one.
What a suspension asks of you
Mostly patience. Tinder's help page on suspensions says a suspended account can return to Tinder after six months. The glossary adds that the account is reinstated automatically when the period ends.
The condition is the part to respect. Reinstatement holds unless additional violations occur, so the suspension is the worst possible time to test the rules. Leave the app alone while you wait, and that includes any idea of a second account. Tinder is clear that new accounts are off limits after a ban, and there is no sense gambling an account that is due back on its own.
What a ban means for your matches and messages
A ban removes the account from the platform and blocks you from getting into it. The conversations inside are out of your reach, and so is every woman you were talking to on Tinder.
You also cannot start over. Tinder says a banned account cannot create new ones. Its Terms of Use also say a removed member is not authorized to sign up again without Tinder's express written permission.
The only way back is the appeal, and it exists for bans you believe were an error. Sign in to the Appeal Center, find the violation, select it, tap Begin appeal, then tap Submit appeal.
Where warnings fit
Bans and suspensions are not the only tools Tinder has. It says breaking its guidelines can bring consequences ranging from a nudge to a ban.
Near the light end is a warning. You get an in-app message from Team Tinder and an email, and Tinder may remove content from your profile. A warning is still worth taking seriously, because repeated violations of similar behavior can get an account banned. Treat it as the cheapest feedback you will ever get.
Why the difference changes what you do
The two call for opposite plans. With a suspension, you wait, you stay within the rules, and you use the months to get better. With a ban, you appeal if you believe it was an error, and otherwise you accept that the Tinder account is gone.
In neither case is a second account the answer. After a ban it is against Tinder's rules outright. During a suspension it gambles an account that was coming back by itself.
Coming back to swiping after a suspension
When a suspended account comes back, treat it as a clean start and not as a return to business as usual. Whatever earned the suspension will earn something heavier the second time.
Coaching material on app bans names the usual causes. Reports for insulting or crude behavior top the list. After that come using the app for something other than dating, auto-swiping tools and repeat accounts. Before you open the app again, be honest about which of those fits. Then refresh your photos, cut any line you would not say to her face, and move good conversations toward a plan quickly, so there is less time for anything to go wrong on the app itself.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.