What Is Share My Date on Tinder?

Share My Date is Tinder's way of telling a friend where you will be before a date. From inside the app you create one link that holds the location, the date, the time and a photo of your match, and you send it to someone you trust. You can set up dates well ahead of time, and you can edit the plans if they change.

Tinder built Share My Date around one idea: the people who care about you should know the who, when and where of a date without you typing it all out.

So the link carries four things. The place you are going. The day. The time. And a photo of the woman you are going to see. Your friend opens the link and has the whole plan in one place.

You decide who gets it. It goes only to the people you choose to send it to.

You do not have to do this on the night. Tinder lets you create dates in the app well in advance, so a Thursday drink and a Saturday coffee can both be set up on Monday.

Plans also change. The bar is full, she runs late, you move the drink to Thursday. Tinder lets you edit a date after you have shared it, so the friend who has the link sees the updated plan rather than the old one. That matters more than it sounds. A safety note that points to the wrong bar is worse than none at all.

Most men assume features like this are for women. a dating coach's advice says otherwise.

His safety advice for online dates is short: meet in a nice, well-lit public place, and make sure someone else knows where you are. He admits these are mostly precautions women take, because they are usually in more physical danger than a man is. His point is that a man who values his own life should take a few precautions anyway.

Share My Date turns that second rule into one tap. It costs you nothing and it covers the rare evening that goes strangely.

Send it to one reliable person, not a group chat.

The right person will actually look at their phone that evening. They know you well enough to notice if something is off, and they will not turn your date into a running commentary. A brother, a close friend, a flatmate. Tell them roughly when you expect to be done, and send a quick message when you are.

Keep it low-key. The point is that someone knows, not that everyone is following along.

The best first dates are simple to describe in one link, and that is not a coincidence. Simple plans are safer and they work better.

a dating coach's habit for first dates from the apps is to pick a place that is highly convenient for him, ideally a decent bar a short walk from home. If she turns out to be very different from her photos, his commitment is a few minutes, and he does not have to drive across the city to find that out. He still stays a polite ten or fifteen minutes rather than walking out, partly out of basic decency and partly because nobody needs a vindictive stranger with a grudge.

He is also cautious about inviting a woman straight back to his place on a first date when he knows nothing about her. A short phone or video call beforehand is his other filter. It tells you whether she is who her photos say, and whether the two of you actually get on, before anyone commits an evening.

None of this should change how you talk to her.

Set the plan the usual way in the chat: a specific place, a specific day, a time. Confirm it on the day without sounding anxious. Then create the date in Share My Date and send it to your friend. She never has to see any of it, and nothing about the conversation needs to feel like a security briefing.

Share My Date is a Tinder feature that packages your date's location, date, time and a photo of your match into one link you send to someone you trust. You can create dates well ahead and edit them when plans move. Use it for every first date. It takes a few seconds, and it means someone always knows where you are.