What Is Most Compatible on Tinder?

Most Compatible is a recommendation Tinder makes just for you. It highlights someone you are more likely to have a conversation with. It appears as a Most Compatible label on your Discovery screen. Tinder says that if someone is shown to you as Most Compatible, they are likely to see you too, so you are more likely to match. The recommendations expire after a period of time, and the feature is on Android and iOS in select markets.

Read the wording closely, because it is more modest than the name suggests. Tinder is not saying she is the most attractive woman near you, or your perfect partner. It is saying she is someone you are more likely to have a conversation with.

That is a useful prediction. Plenty of matches on the apps go nowhere: two lines each and then silence. Tinder is flagging someone it expects to get past that stage with you.

It is also a two-way pick. Tinder says the person you see as Most Compatible is likely to see you too. So you are not the only one looking at a highlighted recommendation. She may be looking at you with the same label.

Because the pick runs both ways, your like has a better chance than usual of landing. That makes it worth more of your attention than an ordinary card.

So slow down for this one. Look at every photo, not just the first. Read what she wrote. Ask yourself whether you would actually enjoy a drink with her on a Thursday.

If the answer is yes, like her. If you are not sure, the rest of her page will usually settle it.

It also helps to look for what the two of you have in common. Maybe you both wrote about travel, or you both look like people who spend weekends outdoors. Whether or not that is why she was picked, the overlap is usually the easiest thing to talk about once you match.

Tinder says the recommendations expire after a period of time. The pick you meant to come back to on the weekend may be gone by then.

This is where men lose the advantage the label gave them. They see it, think "maybe later", and move on. If you are interested, decide while it is in front of you.

The same goes after a match. Answer while it is fresh, not the next evening, when she has moved on to other chats and the reason she liked you is a day older.

The label gets you as far as a match. What you send next decides whether Tinder's prediction comes true.

a dating coach makes the point that reading a woman starts before the first message, with her photos and what she has written. Make a guess about what she is like from that. Is she playful and a bit sharp, or warm and a little more serious? Then choose an opening line that suits the woman you guessed at. You will not always guess right, but you will be far closer than a man who sends the same line to everyone.

Make it specific, short and easy to reply to. Pick one thing from her page and do something with it: a playful guess, a light tease, or a question only she could answer.

"You look like the one who plans the whole trip and then refuses to use the map. Am I close?" gives her something to push back on. "Hey, we're most compatible apparently" gives her nothing, and it hands the conversation to a piece of software.

Once she answers, stay out of interview mode. Three factual questions in a row about her job, her hometown and her weekend turn a chat into a form. Share a bit of yourself, tease a little, and when she is answering warmly and quickly, suggest a plan.

You do not owe the label a like. If you read her page and would not take her out, skip her.

Liking women you feel lukewarm about fills your list with conversations you will let die. It also defeats the point of the feature, which is to put your effort where a conversation is likely.

A prediction is still only a prediction. Tinder can guess that the two of you will talk. It cannot know whether you find her funny or whether you would enjoy a Saturday with her. Those calls are yours, and you should trust them over any label.

Most Compatible marks someone Tinder expects you to actually talk to, and she is likely seeing you too. Look at her properly, decide before the pick expires, and send an opening line built from her page. That is how a highlighted card turns into a date.