How to Meet Women at a Casino

To meet women at a casino, go where people are socializing, not where they are concentrating. Good places to start a conversation include the casino bars and lounges and the busy craps and roulette tables, where strangers cheer together. The restaurants and the crowd coming out of a show work well too. A woman staring at a slot machine or thinking through a hand at blackjack is busy, so wait for a break in the game or talk to someone between games. Leave the dealers and cocktail servers alone. They are at work.

A casino floor looks crowded, but most people on it are focused on a machine or a table. The places where women are open to talking sit around the edges.

The center bar and the lounges with live music are the heart of it. People are there to have a drink, watch the room and talk. Restaurants and the bars next to them fill up before and after dinner. In the bigger resort casinos, the pool by day and the club by night work like any pool or club. The walkways between them carry a steady stream of groups heading somewhere, and the crowd leaving a concert or a show is full of women in a good mood.

The poker room is mostly men. The slot machines are mostly people who want to be left alone.

Craps is the most social game in the building. Everyone at the table wins or loses together, so a good roll gets strangers cheering and high-fiving. A woman at a hot craps table is already celebrating with people she met two minutes ago.

Roulette has a similar feel, with a natural break after every spin. If you do not know a game, asking how it works is a fine opener, because people enjoy explaining. What you should not do is offer unrequested strategy advice. Nobody wants a stranger telling her how to bet.

Talking to someone in the middle of a hand or a spin is like tapping a man on the shoulder while he putts. Wait. Between hands, when she stands up to cash out, or when she walks over to the bar are all better moments.

A few rules keep you welcome at the tables. Never touch anyone's chips. Do not lean over her shoulder to see her cards. If she is on a losing streak and clearly annoyed, a light comment can work, but read her face before you make it.

Dealers, cocktail servers and hosts are friendly because friendliness is their job. Tip them well and thank them. Do not mistake service for interest, and do not ask a server out while she is carrying a tray across a busy floor. It puts her in an awkward spot with her manager watching.

A Las Vegas casino is mostly visitors. Bachelorette groups, birthday trips and women in town for a convention fill the bars, and many of them fly home tomorrow. a dating coach has said that women who hook up in Vegas often see it as part of the vacation rather than the start of dating. So be direct, suggest the next place quickly, and swap numbers in case you want to see her again.

A local casino is different. The crowd is older and full of regulars, and weeknights can be very quiet. Treat it like a neighborhood bar. Go on a Friday or Saturday night, sit at the bar near the music, and expect to see the same faces if you come back.

Some men throw chips around to show they have money. It rarely works, and the attention it draws is not the kind you want. coach, who used to play poker in a casino, remembers very rich players who seemed to come in wanting to lose. He describes them as miserable company, not attractive men.

Bet what you would spend on a night out anyway. Win or lose, keep your mood steady. A woman remembers the man who was fun to stand next to at the craps table, not how much he bet.

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