Tap the profile icon, tap Settings, and scroll down to the section labelled Double Date. There you can choose to hide all Double Date profiles, so only individual people appear in Discovery. Or you can highlight Double Date profiles more than individual ones, if you would rather see more pairs.
Where the setting lives
Double Date has its own section in Tinder's Settings, so you do not have to hunt through your general preferences for it.
To reach it, open the app and tap the profile icon. Tap Settings, then scroll until you reach the heading that says Double Date. The options for pairs are grouped together there.
If you cannot find the section, check that Double Date is offered in your market. Tinder runs the feature in select markets only, so not every account has it.
Hide pairs or see more of them
Tinder gives you options in that section, and the two that matter most pull in opposite directions.
Hiding all Double Date profiles clears pairs out of your Discovery. You see individual women only, one card at a time.
Highlighting Double Date profiles does the reverse. Pairs are shown more than individual profiles, so if you like the idea of dating as a pair with a friend, you get more of them to choose from.
The setting is about what shows up on your screen. It is a way to shape your own view of Discovery, so pick the option that fits how you actually date.
When hiding pairs makes sense
For a lot of men, hiding pairs is the right call.
You may have no friend who is single and keen to try it. You may just prefer 1-on-1 dates, where the whole evening is about you and her. dating advice makes the same point about dates in general: when a woman is already happy to come out with you alone, a group only adds distractions.
If either is true, pairs in your view are just cards you will pass on every time. Hiding them saves you the effort and keeps your attention on the women you would actually take out.
When seeing more pairs makes sense
The opposite holds if you already run a Double Date with a friend. In that case, more pairs in your view is exactly what you want, because every pair is a possible evening out for the two of you.
It also suits a man who likes group plans. Group outings are easier for some women to agree to, since they are not walking in alone, and a man who is good company in a group can do well from them.
Your own card still has to stand out
Whatever you choose, the setting changes who you see. It does nothing to change how women see you.
A woman scrolling through her own view still gets a few seconds with your card. If your photos are dim and your bio says nothing, hiding pairs will not help you. You will simply see fewer pairs while getting the same results as before.
So once the setting is sorted, look at your own page with fresh eyes. a dating coach makes a sharp point about bios: the average nice guy's bio is far too nice and not polarizing at all. His advice for that man is to get more polarizing, which tends to bring more results, better results, and better follow-through from the women who like him. A bio so safe that nobody feels anything reading it is the one to rewrite first.
Making your own bio do its job
A bio that works gives her something she can picture and something she can answer.
Replace the list of adjectives with one specific thing you actually do: the Sunday league you play in, the dish you are weirdly proud of, the trip you are planning. Add a line with a little edge to it, so the right women lean in and the wrong ones move on.
Keep it short, too. She is reading on a phone, often in the gap between two other things. Three lines she can take in at a glance do more than a paragraph she has to scroll through, and every extra sentence is one more chance to say something forgettable.
Your lead photo deserves the same scrutiny. It is the first thing she sees before she reads a word, so it should be clear, well lit, and obviously you, not a group shot where she has to guess which face is yours.
Then test what you change. a dating coach's rule for improving anything online is to get a baseline, make one change, and keep it only if it works.
That is the part of Tinder you fully control. The Double Date setting cleans up what you see, and your own page decides what happens next.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.