Dating Coaching for Gay Men Who Want to Approach in Person

If you are a gay man who wants to meet men, a Cold Approach Bootcamp is not built for you. The training is about a man approaching women in person: the walk-over, the first thirty seconds, the conversation and the number. We have no curriculum for meeting men, and we would rather say so than sell you days that miss what you came for.

The fear underneath is the same for anyone, so some of it carries over. It helps to know which part.

• The Bootcamp teaches approaching women, in daygame and night game, in Miami and New York.
• We do not offer a version for meeting men, and we do not claim expertise in gay dating.
• A bisexual man who wants to approach women is welcome like any other student, with no skill floor.
• The inner work around hesitation and rejection is not specific to who you want to meet.

Everything in a Bootcamp day is set up for one situation: a man walking up to a woman he does not know. The four parts are approaching and conversation, attraction and delivery, numbers and dates, and rejection and follow-through. Each of them is taught with that in mind.

That includes how a woman reads a man's tone, how a conversation with her tends to go, and what a good number exchange looks like. A coach standing beside you will correct what you do against those standards. If the person you want to meet is a man, those corrections would not apply, and the money and days would be spent on the wrong target.

Some of what a man learns in the field is about himself, not about her.

Carries over: the hesitation before you walk over. The blank mind. Replaying an interaction for hours. Letting one cold reaction decide the rest of your night. Those happen to men whoever they are trying to meet, and a coach's job in those moments is to help you act anyway.

Does not carry over: the specifics. How to read interest from a woman, how to flirt with her, how she responds to directness, and how to move to a number or a date with her. Meeting men in person has its own setting and signals, and we have not built training around them.

So the honest answer is that the approach-anxiety work is general, and the technique is not.

You do not have to give up on the in-person part. The skill is making yourself walk up and speak, and you can practice that without a Bootcamp.

Pick one place where you would plausibly meet someone, such as a bar, a gym, a class or a weekend event. Set a goal you can control, like saying hello to one person each time you go, whatever happens next. Raise it slowly. a dating coach's wider point about hesitation applies to everyone: "Most guys lose the girl not because they did something wrong. They hesitated." Change who "the girl" is and the lesson still holds.

If the fear is severe, a therapist or counselor who works with gay men is a better first call than a coach, and we make no claims about treating it.

Will a coach work with me if I am gay?

A Bootcamp is a program about approaching women, and a coach there would be coaching that. If that is not what you want, it is not the right purchase. Better to know before booking.

What if I am bisexual?

Then approaching women is part of what you want, and the Bootcamp fits. Can a Total Beginner Do a Dating Bootcamp? shows what a first day looks like.

Does the anxiety help even if the target differs?

The nerves are the same sort of nerves.

Is Group or Private different for a bisexual man?

No. Both formats welcome every level. Group or Private compares them.

If you want something different, we would rather you find a program built for it.