Is Hily a Dating App for Hookups?

Not only. Hily's own FAQ describes it as a place for people looking for deep commitment, something casual, or new friends. So casual daters are on it, along with women who want a relationship and women who want company, and the app does not sort them for you. You do that with what you write and how you reply.

Hily puts three kinds of people on one app. That is different from a site built for one purpose, and it changes what a first message means. A woman who matches with you has not told you what she is looking for. She may not have decided yet.

Treat the app as a wide pool with the sorting left to you. It is a bigger room than a relationship site, and a quieter one than an app that exists for casual dates. Neither feature makes it better or worse for you. It means your page and your first chats carry the weight.

On an app where everyone wants the same thing, a man can be vague. On Hily vague loses, because the women reading your page are looking for different things and need a reason to trust that you are looking for the same.

a dating coach names an error that spoils this. A page that is too gamey or too sexual puts women off even when they would otherwise be attracted. A woman wants to be drawn to a man without being able to point to what he did. A man who is obviously there only for sex, and pushy about it, reads as a man she should be careful with.

So say it in one calm line and let your photos and details carry the rest. "Keeping things light and fun right now" is plain and does the sorting.

This is judgment and not a rule from any coach: do not say you want a relationship to get a casual date. It costs you the one thing you cannot buy back. A woman who feels misled does not come back, tells her friends, and trusts the next man less.

You can be honest and warm in the same breath. Say you are keeping it light, ask what she is looking for, and accept her answer. Plenty of women want the same thing and will say so. The ones who do not will tell you early, which saves you both time.

Hily's Finder is the main feed where you like or skip people, and you need a match before you can chat. The App Store listing names a few features. One is a Compatibility Quiz. Another is personalized icebreakers. It also lists video calling and verification of your page.

Use verification on yourself. A verified page shows you took a step, and it is a small help to a woman deciding whether to trust a stranger. Use icebreakers as a draft, since a line she can tell was generated says nothing about you. Use a short video call before a first date to settle whether she looks like her photos.

Open with something specific from her page, and keep it short. a dating coach looks for something unusual to comment on, and prefers reacting to something she wrote over something about her looks.

Then ask for a plan early and lightly. coach gets a woman from an app to her number in about four to seven short messages, each with a job. A drink somewhere close to both of you tells her you are real and gives her a plain yes or no.

Do not push for more than she offers. If she wants to talk for a week first, that is her answer, and pressing only turns a possible yes into a no.

Casual dates from an app come from steady effort and not a single big night. a dating coach reviewed a man's nine-year tally from one app. About one in forty swipes became a match. Roughly 400 of the 2,200 matches he chatted with became dates, and 125 casual encounters followed. My reading was that the ratios looked poor and the result was excellent, and it came from showing up for less than half an hour a day.

Do not expect a flood. Expect a trickle that adds up if you keep your photos clear, your page honest and your replies quick.

Some accounts on any app are fake or have a script. Be wary of anyone who wants to leave the app within a few messages, tells a story that keeps changing, or asks for money. Meet in a public place, tell a friend where you are, and make your own way home.

Count what Hily gives you for two weeks next to another app: women you liked, likes back, chats that turned into a plan, and dates. Keep the one that gives you the dates you wanted. If Hily keeps matching you with women who want something else, the problem is usually what your page announces, not the app.