How to Give Feedback on a Hinge Convo Starter

Tap Give Feedback, choose which tip your feedback relates to, add details, and submit it. You will see a confirmation once it goes through. Hinge says the tips are made automatically by software. Nobody at Hinge writes them or reviews them first, so a tip that feels off or irrelevant is exactly what the button is for.

When a Convo Starter tip looks wrong, here is what to do:

1. Tap Give Feedback.
2. Choose which tip your feedback is about.
3. Add details explaining what was off.
4. Submit it and wait for the confirmation message.

That is the whole process. Hinge says the feedback helps it improve Convo Starters for everyone, so a few honest words about a bad tip are worth the ten seconds.

Convo Starters are short ideas for how to start a conversation, built from the photos, prompt answers and pronouns someone has on her page. Hinge's own example is a photo of a woman at a pasta restaurant, which might produce tips like "Ask about their favorite restaurant" or "Share your go-to dish."

Because software writes them and nobody checks them first, they can go wrong in ordinary ways. A tip might read a photo too literally, latch onto a detail that is not really about her, or suggest a topic she already answered in her prompts. Hinge admits it on the same page, in three words: "AI isn't perfect!"

Flag a tip when it is plainly wrong about what is on her page, when it has nothing to do with her, or when it touches something it should not. Hinge says it tries to keep tips away from sensitive topics, so a tip that strays there is exactly the kind of thing it wants to hear about.

When you do flag one, be specific in the details box. "The tip asked about a restaurant, but the photo is her own kitchen" tells Hinge far more than "wrong tip." A clear note is more useful to the people fixing the feature.

A tip that is merely dull is a different matter. You do not need to report every bland suggestion. Just do not send it.

Hinge is clear that the tips are meant to inspire you, not write the message for you. You decide what to send and how to make it your own. That is the right way to think about them.

The trouble with copying a tip word for word is that it turns into an interview question. "Ask about their favorite restaurant" becomes "What's your favorite restaurant?" There is nothing wrong with it. There is nothing memorable about it either, and she can answer in two words.

a dating coach's approach to a first line is different. He scrolls through her page looking for something unusual he can comment on, and ideally tease her about. He keeps it short, because fewer words usually beat more. He also prefers commenting on a prompt over a photo, because it seems more genuine and less focused on looks.

A tip is useful when it points you at the right detail. From there, add an opinion or a small tease instead of a question.

Take the pasta photo. The tip says to ask about her favorite restaurant. A better line takes a side: "Posting carbonara is brave. Cream in it or no cream? Choose carefully." It is short, it shows a bit of personality, and it gives her an easy way to push back.

The same move works on almost any tip. Find the detail it pointed to, decide what you actually think about it, and say that in one line.

It works on yourself, too. If the tip is "Share your go-to dish," a line like "My go-to dish is cereal, so you would be doing the cooking" is honest, a little funny, and gives her something to push back on.

If you already spotted something on her page worth commenting on, you do not need the tip at all. Your own observation will always sound more like you.

a dating coach also keeps a few lines of his own ready for when nothing on a woman's page stands out to him. Those are lines he wrote himself and has seen work, matched to the kind of woman he is writing to. A small set like that often beats any tip, because you already know how women respond to it.

If you would rather not see the tips at all, Hinge lets you turn them off in your settings. Opting out also stops tips from being generated on your own photos and prompts. For most men, though, leaving them on and treating them as a hint is the better deal. Flag the bad ones, ignore the dull ones, and use the good ones as a starting point for a line of your own.