How to Answer the "We'll Get Along If" Prompt on Hinge

Write one small habit that you both would have, so she can see herself doing it and say yes in a line. "We'll get along if you leave the radio on in the kitchen and sing badly on purpose" is that kind of habit. The woman who does the same thing knows straight away that the line is about her.

Hinge's own newsroom cites "We'll get along if..." as an example of a prompt that makes it easy to share who you are and start a conversation. That fits what the stem does. It is not a question about your past or your job. It is a sentence about what time together would be like.

Few lines on a profile show her the two of you in the same room, doing one particular thing. Most prompt answers describe one person. This one describes a small scene with two, and the scene lets the right woman recognize herself in it.

The common mistake is to describe a temperament. "You are laid back." "You love adventure." "You don't take life too seriously." These are all traits, and traits are cheap. Everyone is laid back in their own opinion, so "We'll get along if you are chill and fun" filters nobody.

A habit is different. It is something you do, and it can be seen. Walking home from dinner instead of calling a car. Ordering the one dish neither of you has heard of. Keeping a running list of films you mean to watch and never do. Stopping at every bookshop sign.

A habit tells her how time with you would feel. It also lets the wrong person self-select out, which is useful. If you write that you will always stay for the end credits, the woman who leaves at the first name on the screen is not going to be happy with you. You want her to see that now, not on the third date.

There is a quiet difference between "We'll get along if you do this" and "We'll get along if we both do this." The first sets a task. The second offers a picture.

Pair the habit with a small signal of what you do yourself. "We'll get along if you are fine with a Sunday that is mostly a long walk and an argument about where to eat after. That is how mine usually goes." Now it reads as a shared life, not a quiz she has to pass.

Without your part in it, a condition feels like a demand, and she is being asked to meet standards before you have said anything about yourself. With your part, it is an invitation.

The habit should be modest and real. Big declarations are the enemy here. "We'll get along if you love adventure" sounds like a lot until you realize it is what every man writes, and no woman reads it as information.

The small version carries more detail and less risk. "We'll get along if you will wait twenty minutes for a table at the good place rather than eat at the okay one next door." There is a person in that sentence, and a little humor, and a mild opinion she can push back on.

Test it by saying it to a friend. If the friend says "that is so you," you have it. If the friend shrugs, it is too general.

Hinge's relationship expert advises writing prompt answers as a hook, with an open-ended question or suggestion at the end. A habit works as the hook by itself if it points at something she may feel strongly about.

"We'll get along if you will defend your coffee order in public" ends with her turn. She can answer with an order, an argument, or a story about once being mocked for it. Each of those is a conversation.

If the line closes the topic, add a half-question. "We'll get along if you have a restaurant you refuse to give up, and I want to hear it." Her answer writes itself.

If your sentence starts turning into a description of what she must be, bring it back to what happens when the two of you are in the same room. Writing from the pair makes the answer warmer, because you are describing a day, not a candidate.

Before you save, read the sentence and ask what she could type back in one line. A habit she shares gives her an easy "ha, that is me." A habit she does not share gives her an easy way out, and that is fine too. Both outcomes save you time.

You are free to edit a Hinge prompt at any time, and the app's Prompt Feedback tool can score your answers once the profile is complete. So if you have this stem up with a pleasant, general line under it, trade the line for one specific habit and see how the replies change.