Everyone enters a date of birth when they sign up, and you must be 18 or older to use Feeld. In some locations, the United Kingdom and Australia among them, members must also verify their age because the law there requires it. That check uses either your mobile phone number or a live selfie, and until it is done your account stays banned.
The date of birth
You enter your date of birth at sign-up. It cannot be changed after the first 7 days of the account.
That is one reason to enter it correctly the first time. A typo you notice on day eight is a problem you cannot fix yourself. Feeld also says plainly that everyone must be 18 or older.
Who has to verify
Verification is required in some locations, because it is required by law there. It applies if you are physically in one of those locations, even just visiting, or if your account uses a phone number based there.
So a man who lives somewhere else can still be asked to verify on a trip, and a man who is at home can be asked because of the number he signed up with. Do not assume the rule only touches residents.
The two methods
There are two ways to verify.
Mobile phone number. The verification partner asks your mobile provider to confirm your age. This must be done on a phone on a mobile network. VoIP numbers such as Google Voice cannot be used.
Live selfie. A live selfie is analyzed by facial age estimation. Take it in good light, face the camera, and keep your face clear of anything that blocks it.
Pick the one that suits you. A man with a regular mobile contract usually finds the phone number route simpler. A man on a VoIP line will need the selfie.
What it checks, and what it does not
Feeld says verification confirms age, not identity. Its partner deletes the records it used as soon as verification finishes.
That is a different thing from a photo verification badge, where Feeld checks that a live selfie matches a public photo of you. Age verification does not put a badge on your account or tell other members anything about you.
If you fail
If you fail one method, you can retry it once or try the other. If you fail both, you are offered a third method that uses ID.
Read the instructions before you start, and do not rush the selfie. Most failures come from poor light or a face partly covered. If your first attempt fails, change the light and try again, or switch method.
What happens until you verify
Until you verify, your account is banned. You do not appear in Discover, and your connections see Account paused.
That means you cannot meet anyone while you wait. If you are in a location that requires it, do the check first. A woman who sees Account paused on your chat has no way to know why, and she may stop waiting.
What this means for your messages
Age checks are a legal requirement in some places, not a judgment about you. They also mean the people on the other side were checked in the same places, which is a small reassurance.
It does not make the rest of the work go away. A verified account still needs a clear lead photo, a few honest ones that show your life, and a short bio that sounds like you. a dating coach keeps early messages short and specific, and that does more for your results than any badge or check.
The short version
You enter a date of birth at sign-up, it cannot be changed after the first 7 days, and you must be 18 or older. Where the law requires it, you verify age by mobile number or a live selfie, and you can retry once, switch methods, or use ID as a third route. Until you verify, you are banned from Discover.
Written by Matthew Stevens, Co-Founder & Head Coach. More than half a decade coaching men across the US and worldwide.
Everything here comes out of real coaching work: the approaches, dates, texts and profiles we go through with the men we coach.