How Do You Become a Hot Guy and Build a Body Women Love?

You do not need a six pack or a model's face. A body women like is one that looks strong, healthy and cared for, and "hot" comes from how you look, how you carry yourself and what you do with your life. Most men can improve all three in a few months. The trick is to pick a plan you can keep for years, not one you can only survive for a summer.

Men mostly judge women on looks. Women judge men on a wider set. Looks count, and so do behavior and perceived value. A man can be a seven in the mirror and read as a nine because he is confident, funny, organized and clearly sought after.

You have probably met a man who does well with beautiful women and is not tall or model handsome. Study him. Odds are he runs something, creates something or has a visible social life.

That gives you three levers: body, presentation and life.

Skip the crash plan. A body women like is lean enough to look athletic, strong enough to carry itself well and consistent enough to stay that way.

1. Lift three times a week. Squats, presses, rows and pull ups cover most of what you need. Add weight slowly.
2. Walk or run most days. Cardio keeps your energy up and your waist down.
3. Eat real food. Meat, eggs, vegetables, fruit, rice and potatoes. Cut the packaged stuff you eat out of boredom.
4. Sleep. Seven or eight hours changes how you look and how you talk.
5. Think in years. Aim to look good at forty and fit at sixty, not shredded for one beach week.

a dating coach tells men who are out of shape to join a gym and make it a habit again. He also notes that men often let this slide during a relationship and need to rebuild it after. Start where you are.

Clothes and grooming change how you look faster than the gym does.

• Get a haircut that suits your face. Ask a barber, not a friend.
• Fit matters more than brand. Clothes that fit your shoulders and waist beat expensive clothes that hang.
• Own two great outfits. One for going out and one for a date, from shoes to shirt. a dating coach suggests spending more on these than on everyday clothes, since they make the first impression.
• Handle the basics. Clean nails, skin care, trimmed hair, a good scent, clean shoes.

A man who looks cared for reads as a man who values himself.

Posture, voice and ease do as much as muscle.

• Stand tall and keep your shoulders back.
• Slow down your speech.
• Make eye contact and smile with some warmth.
• Move with purpose and without rush.

These cost nothing, and they change how your body reads. A fit man who slouches and mumbles looks worse than an average man who stands and speaks with calm.

Hot to a woman includes what a man does with his time. Having standards, projects and a social circle tells her you are in demand.

• Organize an event: a dinner, a game night, a group trip.
• Pursue a creative hobby you take seriously.
• Keep friends and plans of your own.
• Have standards for who you date, and politely pass on women who do not meet them.

That last point matters. A man who does not need any particular woman to say yes looks abundant, and abundance is attractive.

Some traits cannot change. Height, face shape and age are fixed. a dating coach's view is that every trait has women who like it, women who do not care and a few who dislike it, so you improve what you can and stop waiting for the rest.

The only way to know whether your changes work is to try them on real women. On a Cold Approach Bootcamp in Miami or New York, you do two four-hour blocks a day in the field with a coach beside you. You get honest feedback on what you wear, how you stand and how you open. Then you adjust.

Do I need to be tall?

No. Plenty of shorter men date well. Posture, presence and humor close most of the gap.

How fast will I see change?

Grooming and clothes work in days. Training shows in about three months.

What if I am skinny or overweight?

Start with the plan above. Strength training helps both, and food does the rest.